I have to admit to a couple things here. First, I’m just a tad surprised and humbled by the number of people who reach out to me in the spirit of discovering how things have been. Secondly, I find it remarkable how, after so long, that my life can continue to evolve and change where one day to the next, I really don’t know what to expect. Life post-divorce is weird but when I consider what I’ve gained, I wouldn’t trade it away.
As you may recall, my divorce was finalized in January of this year. And in the wake of that process I did in fact walk away with all conditions exactly as I wanted. This however, is not to say I am unscathed. Even the best of divorces come with tremendous loss… no one walks away a winner.
So where am I now? Well I’m still in the same little rental I moved into when we initially separated. I’m still working at the same job. I’m still learning new life-skills like how to cook real, honest-to-goodness food.
While I am absolutely certain that my divorce was the right thing for my heart, I still suffer moments of substantial loneliness. Though the frequency and duration of those moments have diminished measurably. I’ve discovered that I tend to fall for women who aren’t available. But if it weren’t for the friends I’ve made along the way I would have most certainly crumbled. Certainly. So my important peeps are something for which I am very grateful. And the lessons I continue to learn from them are valuable indeed…
- The truest measure of success is the depth and caliber of your relationships.
- People come into your life for one of two reasons; either they need to teach you something, or need to learn something from you.
- Love and hate go hand-in-hand but indifference is the antithesis of love.
- It’s okay to feel bad for a friend who’s in a bad way, but it’s not ok to make their problems yours.
- We teach people exactly how they should treat us... And the do…
- Life and more importantly, living, is a work-in-progress.
- Vulnerability is the birthplace of shame… but also at the core of joy, excitement, and human connection… love.
- New socks feel wonderful.
